The Butterfly Effect would say Yes
We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness — and call it love — true love.
― Robert Fulghum, True Love: Stories Told To and By Robert Fulghum
Source: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2014/02/14/love-weird/?amp=1
#Love #Relationships #RobertFulghum #SelfCompassion #TrueLove #WeirdnessWhen a flower doesn’t bloom you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.
― Alexander Den Heijer, Dutch inspirational speaker
If you heal the leg of a person, do not be surprised if they use it to run away.
― African proverb
While genes load the gun, environment ultimately pulls the trigger.
― Dr. Kim Hellemens (Neuroscientist)
Source: https://youtu.be/dElDzDDxBGc?t=384
#DevelopmentalTrauma #EarlyLifeStress #EarlyLifeTrauma #Epigenetics #GeneExpression #KimHellemensThe nature of a narcissistic relationship is the absolute abolishment of psychological safety. You are not, because they are going in there to weaken you, to strengthen themselves. That was always the relationship, no matter what the nature of the relationship was.
― Ramani S. Durvasula
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p-JTkMQ_fM&t=2236s
#AntagonisticPersonalityStyles #DrRamani #Narcissism #PsychologicalSafety #Safety #SelfWorthPeople who are narcissistic have very little self-awareness. They have very little, what we call, self reflective capacity. They don’t have that ability to go inward and think about how they affect other people, which is a core part of empathy. So when it comes down to it, you have to swallow the bitter pill which is: They actually really don’t care. But the worst part is, they think they do.
― Ramani S. Durvasula
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p-JTkMQ_fM&t=2236s
#AntagonisticPersonalityStyles #DrRamani #Narcissism #SelfAwareness #SelfReflection #VariableEmpathyVerbal abuse is the use of language to shame, scare or hurt another. Dysfunctional parents routinely use name-calling, sarcasm, and destructive criticism to overpower and control their children. Verbal abuse is as commonplace in the American family as homework and table manners. It is modeled as socially acceptable in almost every sitcom on television.
― Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
Fully feeling people are also rewarded with increasing richness in their relationships – both with themselves and with others. Love manifests as a palpable warmth and excitement when it is grounded in the heart and body by feeling. Emotional love is so much more profound than the lightweight intellectual experiences of thought-bound people for whom love is often only an ideal, a dream, or a hungry expectation.
― Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
Neuroception precedes perception. Story follows state. Through a polyvagal framework, the important question “What happened?” is explored not to document the details of an event but to learn about the autonomic response. The clues to a client’s present-time suffering can be found in their autonomic response history.
― Deborah A. Dana, The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation
Bibliotherapy is a term that describes the very real process of being positively and therapeutically influenced by what you read. As stated earlier, when it is at its most powerful, bibliotherapy is also relationally healing. It can rescue you from the common CPTSD feeling of abject isolation and alienation.
― Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
Paradoxically, the more we try to change ourselves, the more we prevent change from occurring. On the other hand, the more we allow ourselves to fully experience who we are, the greater the possibility of change.
― Laurence Heller, Aline LaPierre